How to find comfort after a miscarriage
We are so sorry to hear you are experiencing a miscarriage. A rollercoaster of emotions is completely normal during this time and it’s important to remember that there is no “right” way to feel.
We are so sorry to hear you are experiencing a miscarriage. A rollercoaster of emotions is completely normal during this time and it’s important to remember that there is no “right” way to feel.
We are so sorry to hear you are experiencing a miscarriage. A rollercoaster of emotions is completely normal during this time and it’s important to remember that there is no “right” way to feel. Whether your pregnancy was 4 weeks or 19 weeks, every person is allowed to grieve and express this grief in their own way. So, how do you find comfort in this sometimes isolating journey? This article will help guide you to get the support you need – both physically and emotionally.
Do your best not to isolate yourself for too long, if you need time alone, honor that, but have your loved ones close enough to help out at a moment’s notice.
Do your best not to isolate yourself for too long, if you need time alone, honor that, but have your loved ones close enough to help out at a moment’s notice. This is your journey and an important process is pregnancy loss – something that can change you forever. You deserve love, respect, and nurturing. Grief turns us into a new human, sometimes it’s subtle and other times we may not recognize ourselves. Try not to cling to the person you were before, it’s ok to evolve. Remember you are not alone. Many women, including myself and my team, have been where you are and we are here for you. It can feel supportive to read other women’s stories to feel less isolated.
During your miscarriage, it is important to remember that you need both physical and emotional support. Even if you feel like you got this, allow yourself to let down your guard and feel whatever emotions come up. Your home is your sanctuary, use this time to settle in and honor the process your body is going through. You have to remember that your body requires healing, so although it may feel easier to distract yourself and continue with daily life, it’s a critical time to slow down and honor the process. Most importantly do not feel ashamed or feel like you have to hide the fact that you are miscarrying. Miscarriage has been a taboo discussion for many generations, but this narrative is starting to change. It’s important to talk about it and let people know why you need this time to heal.
There’s nothing wrong with you for slowing down. Your loved ones will be able to better understand why you need this time if you are open and honest. This not only supports your physical healing because you are permitting yourself to step back from your normal responsibilities, but it will also give you the time to grieve and process how this is affecting you emotionally. Find your comfort items (your favorite blanket, robe, slippers), pamper yourself, read a book, watch movies, journal your feelings, don’t hesitate to write down your broken dreams. It is normal to have feelings of guilt, anger, and despair. We can’t emphasize how important it is to honor this loss. This pregnancy was important, your feelings are valid, and no feeling is wrong.
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For additional support, please reach out to your local birth center or midwives. They are there to answer questions, provide additional resources, and help you through this process.
Be well xoxo